What Defines Who You Are?
One thing that I’ve seen that leads to unhappiness is when our identity is tied to our results or what we do at work. For example, “Is my identity a mother raising children?”, “Is my identity a father?”, “Is my identity look at the job I have”, “Look at the house I have”… Is that my identity?
What I’ve found working with a lot of people is that as long as that is the majority of one’s identity then it is very hard to be happy. Because if my identity is outside of myself then I have to put so much energy into that working, and there is such a fear about all of that collapsing because that is your identity so you feel like you have to make it work.
This message is not do something different or quit what you are doing. I am just asking you to reflect on “Who are you? What is your identity?” Do you have a job or does the job have you?
Is your identity a human being? Is your identity a joyful happy thriving human being that HAS a career? Or is it, it’s my job, it’s my career, that’s who I am.
Take a few minutes and look at that. What do you focus on? Because if you really take a moment and focus on your identity as just a human being, then you can wonder, is my identity my spirit?
If you look at that and you focus on who you are as spirit vs. any physical thing or any amount of money, or any of result, you will be in a whole new world , which is your higher self, versus your self which is time, career, money.
I’m not saying don’t make money or work, I am just saying, that doesn’t have to be your identity.
Why are you here? What is your purpose for being here? You have a purpose and you have a reason, and you are better at that than anyone else. And the purpose is for you to find that.
You aren’t here to make money. I don’t think we are here just to do our job or just to make money to pay the bills. We are not here just to have kids.
I invite you to having your spirit, you as a part of humanity to be your identity, and have your job, have your work, have your kids, but your identity is you. Who are you?
A great exercise is to write it down. Take some time. Are you happy? Are you your job? Are you really good with you?
I invite you to take that journey and detach from those things that we identify ourselves with and question yourself and say “Who Am I?”