Category Archives: Relationships
If there’s one thing that everybody really wants, it’s having great relationships. You think about it. Dream about it. Visualize it with your mind. And no matter who it is you want to build a great relationship with, there is always that one person you should focus on to make it work – yourself.
The Real Focus
More often than not, people blame the other person for broken relationships. I don’t like that he does this. I hate it when she forgets that. But have you ever thought about what you contribute to the relationship and not necessarily what you get out of it?
To have a great relationship, you have to stop needing one. You have to be happy on your own first, and not be happy because someone else is making you happy. This is what destroys relationships. We often rely on the other person to make us happy because we are not happy on our own, by ourselves. We criticize and focus on every single fault they have because we couldn’t deal with our own. In fact, we need to be accountable for the relationship. Stop focusing on the other and start focusing on yourself.
Here’s one exercise that you should try. Fill in the blanks with a word that you want to use:
IF I WANT TO HAVE A __________ RELATIONSHIP, I MUST BE __________.
The key here is using the same word on both blanks.
You would have to admit, this is an awesome topic. Imagine. You’ll finally find out how to get your husband be how you want him to be, your wife to be the way you want her to be, your children to be the way you want them to be, and basically, the entire world to be the way you want them to be. And even better, the timeframe is up to you. You get to change people and dictate how soon that change happens.
You’ve heard this before: you can’t change people. But what if that was wrong? What if that thought has been wrong this entire time, and we just bought into it? Now that’s something to think about.